Shabbat Traditions
Shabbat is a day of rest, set aside from all other days. Shabbat begins on sundown on Friday night and ends on Saturday night at sundown. It is a day that is set apart from the rest of the week.
Light the Candles
Shabbat is ushered in by lighting candles (at least two) 18 minutes before sunset on Friday night. Two candles are lit, representing two commandments: Zakhor (to remember) and Shamor(to observe). Candle lighting times vary from season to season and by location. Traditionally, this is honor is given to the woman of the house, but anyone can do it. Having additional candles for older children to light is fun and gets everyone participating. The candles are lit and then the blessing is said over them.
Blessing of the Children
Share a special moment with your kids. Put your hand on their head and say the blessings
Kiddish
Before the Shabbat meal we say a blessing over the wine. It celebrates the creation of all things and HaShem's freeing us fromthe bondage of Egypt to live as free people and worship Him.
Hamotzi
Blessing over the bread to begin the meal. We bless two loaves of Challah (bread). The reason for two loaves is that when we wondered in the desert we were given a double portion of manah just before Shabbat so we would have enough to eat and would not have to "work" to gather our food.
Festive meal
This is the first of three festive meals that we have during Shabbat.
Birkat HaMazon
Blessing after the meal. This is the blessing that we use every day after meals. On Shabbat it is said taking our time to reflect on the words. Some families chant the blessing and others simply say the words.
Torah Study
Every week we have a new Parsha (portion) of the Torah to read. Take time to talk about the Torah portion with your children. Tell them the story and discuss it with them. How would they do things differently if they were faced with that situation? What do they think about the people in the story?
Festive meal
This is the second of three festive meals that we have during Shabbat
Birkat HaMazon
Blessing after the meal.
Shabbat Day
Most communities have a short service on Friday night and a longer one in the morning on Shabbat.
Torah Study / Rest
Shabbat is a day to rest and have time with the family. Take long walks, study the Torah, play games with the kids and relax.
Festive meal
This is the third of three festive meals that we have during Shabbat.
Birkat HaMazon
Blessing after the meal
Havdallah
Havdallah loses Shabbat the same way it started with lighting candles. A special candle is used with several wicks. The braded candle symbolizes the unifying force of Shabbat.
There are many different traditions in Judiasm and many others in different families and communities. Find the ones that you are most comfortable with and meet the needs of your family. Have a wonderful and joyous Shabbat!